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Age. Divorce. Betrayal. Heartbreak. History Repeating. There are a million reasons why you have dating anxieties, think all men are dicks, and believe a relationship won’t happen for you now.
Let’s cut through the crap and rewrite your love story.
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Leonie began rewriting her love story by uncovering her biggest obstacles...
I went from being afraid to be seen by men, after my toxic marriage, to feeling safe and sexy with my new man.
I no longer walk on egg shells or second guess myself within the relationship.
If I need reassurance, space to think, say what I like/don't like he will hold space for me with genuine patience.
I never thought a man like this could exist; he's like a male version of myself. I am no longer settling,
I'm going for what meets my standards and Sarah's coaching has helped me to find true love, better relationships with friends/family and career progression.
Thank you Sarah!"
Leonie went from being afraid to be seen by men, after her toxic marriage, to feeling safe and sexy with my new man.
She no longer walk on egg shells or second guesses herself within her relationship.
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"Coaching with me helped her find true love, better relationships with friends/family and career progression. "
You shouldn't write off all men or what's possible for you in your love life after 40
*le sigh* "easier said than done that Sarah"
I know but listen the problem is that your unaddressed childhood stuff and holding onto past bad relationship experiences are why :
You unintentionally pick the wrong men and repeat the same mistakes. (ugh, and that compounds what you already believe)
As you sip your evening pinot, you wonder if there's something wrong with you, maybe you’re too old or not attractive enough or if, in fact, all the single men left out there men are dicks.
When you meet someone you can’t help but nitpick, bad grammar, horrible shoes,
You always like the one who is unavailable, and anyone available you don’t find attractive.
You tell your friends, “I’m not bothered about meeting anyone”, while a part of you whispers,
psst “That’s not true; we want to meet someone; we don’t want to die alone or let the last relationship we were in be the last one we ever have.”
But no more we're done with all that
Regardless of the past, if you can be successful in other areas of your life, you can be successful in romantic relationships.
You can (and deserve to) break free from the past and crack the code to find a healthy, happy, functional romantic relationship after 40.
Whether you’ve been single for 10 years or 10 months your future love story is waiting for you to write it.
Hiya 👋 I'm Sarah Your Healthy Dating & Relationship Coach
I manifested my first healthy relationship in my 40s, and I'm here to help you do the same.
I'm an Irish-Hullian who swears like a miner, lives in London and is OBSESSED with vintage and SJP.
And here's what I know to be true:
Because of past experiences, Women over 40 are giving up on finding a partner.
As a Coach, I support single women to stop the cycle of unhealthy dating & toxic relationships and manifest a healthy partnership by healing their past and improving the quality of the relationship with themselves.
I nearly gave up on ever finding a healthy partnership, after 15+years I was exhausted from dating unavailable men that left me feeling empty, lonely and fed up.
I was ready to get off the dating rollercoaster but...
A lack of awareness of my ingrained unhealthy love patterns and habits - (what I now call the relationship autograph) kept me stuck and unintentionally repeating the same mistakes with men for years.
Finally, having figured out what was holding me back, I knew with what I now know, I can’t let other women struggle in their love life for as long as I did when there’s a simple solution.
Once I had the solution things in my love life evolved, and Domion, my partner, manifested in my life.
So not only do I know the exact steps you need to take to have what you want to become a reality, I’ve helped other women do the same.
What if you were next?
Things I Can Help You Do
Break free from toxic cycles of repeating the same mistakes with men
Build self love, respect, acceptance and compassion
Move on from heartbreak and pain from past relationships
Start to date again when the thought of it scares the crap out of you and you've no clue where to begin.
Give you love life a total makeover!
HERE'S WHAT WOMEN ARE SAYING:
I wanted to work with Sarah because I ended a very toxic, narcissistic and codependent relationship. Even though I ended it, I had a hard time letting that person go for my own good because my heart was still in it
The most impactful part was fully seeing (not just knowing) how interconnected everything is. The Love-relationship is just an extension of all relationships to others and yourself. You can not love and be loved by someone else, if you are out of touch and love with yourself.
I have started to set boundaries, see patterns in myself and others and therefore started not to fall into a trap every single time. Which is so helpful in getting back into the ocean of dating and seeing red flags off the bat and moving on.
Doing the work and working with Sarah has absolutely opened my eyes to see the truth of another person and I will NO longer let them break my boundaries. GAME CHANGER.
Susanne
I would wholeheartedly recommend working with Sarah, she offers lifelong support and is such a wonderful person to talk to and work with. I truly believe that my life is happier and richer having joined this group.
Be prepared to discover your inner beliefs about love and life and then question them. Reconnect with the child inside of you and learn to be kind to that little person. If you’ve not tried mediation or tapping, Sarah introduces you top these and the amazing effects they have.
And this work is not just for your love life, I have changed my career after 11 years and truly believe this work helped me achieve this. I turned up as my true self in the interview process, believing that I am good enough for this role, to work in this team.
Esme
We're a swipe right hot match to work together if you're
Ready to take responsibility for the role you've played in your romantic relationships and look at how childhood could be impacting your adult relationships.
Committed to finding out what keeps you stuck in toxic cycles and doing the work to move forward.
A go getter ready to take charge of your love life and get the results you want and prepared (with support) to step outside of your comfort zone and do things differently even when every ounce of your mind is saying NO.
Into geeking out on vintage, style and reorganising your wardrobe is a pleasure not a chore!
Tired of trying to piece together "what to do" using incomplete and conflicting advice from social media and just want an someone a few steps ahead to give you everything you need.
Down to talk about Sex and The City and analyse everything from their relationships to the outfits!.
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When I originally reached out to Sarah I felt completely isolated and just generally "stuck" in unhealthy life/relationships patterns.
I felt really drawn to her positivity and enthusiastic approach to life in general. She helped to draw me out of old negative patterns of "being" and enabled me to better explore who I want to be in the life we all have been given.
Through working with her I've been given the gift of clarity and better understanding into lifelong triggers/situations that cause discomfort and how to overcome those.
I now feel more peace and am embracing my life in ways I have not done in years.
Not only is she a wonderful, caring person, she is just FUN to speak with.
Her energy is infectious in the best of ways and I will forever be grateful for the gifts of self awareness and love she has helped me discover."
Jen felt completely isolated and just generally "stuck" in unhealthy life/relationships patterns
Now she has clarity and a better understanding into lifelong triggers/situations that cause discomfort and how to overcome those.
She now feels more at peace and is embracing life in ways she hasn't done in years.
She now feels more at peace and is embracing life in ways she hasn't done in years.
Besides helping amazing women with their love lives, nurturing my long distance relationship, writing articles and hosting a podcast -
...here are 13 other unrelated, random facts about me...
1. My name is Sarah Eleanor
Roy Duff
The surname is Irish,
I was born in Ireland in 1978 in a place called Magherafelt (Maca-ra-felt incase you were wondering)
I lived in Ireland till 1985. Then we moved to a place called Hull (or ull - as us locals say -we don’t do proper pronunciation!)
1985 was a big year for little me.
We moved counties so I had to say bye to my BFFs and my donkeys.
I started a new school and the teachers (god knows why) decided to parade me from class to class like a show pony and make me speak in my “cute little Irish accent”. Not great when all you want to do is fit in!
It was also the year my mum and dad split up.
Ouufff that poor little girl didn’t know if she was coming or going.
2. I SUCK at numbers
I failed my maths GCSE 3 times (not even a tutor could save me)
And didn’t grasp the times table till I was in my 30’s!
But I’m a dab hand at spotting people’s blind spots and pesky limiting patterns and beliefs regarding relationships. (I always knew algebra was a waste of time!)
3.My mum’s Aunt Alice tried to hold a bank up with a butter knife
It’s funny and sad all at the same time.
She had dementia, and she and my Granny had taken up whisky drinking as a full-time hobby in their elder years.
In an attempt to whiskey-block them, Alice was put on a daily budget restriction.
But these ladies would not be stopped, so Alice unsuccessfully tried to hold up the local bank with a knife to get more whiskey funds.
They’re long gone (along with 4 other sisters), but plenty more stories exist. Maybe I’ll tell you one day over a coffee!
4. I am an ex airline hostie!
I spent 12 years keeping people safe while serving tea and coffee in an aluminium can while suspended at 10,000 ft!!
No, I never joined the mile-high club.
Yes, I have lots of passenger and trip stories!
I worked for Monarch, Virgin Atlantic and British Airways.
And I have these 12 years to thank for helping me create such a knack for helping people feel immediately comfortable around me. Seriously you would be surprised by some of the things people share with me after meeting me!!
5. Victoria Beckham's daughter projectile vomited on me in first class!
Yep, following on from number 4.
After being fed by the nanny pretty much non-stop from Heathrow to Los Angeles, Harper Beckham vomited all over me and the floor just as we were about to land in LA!
I also took David Beckham on a flight to Rio. He ate a lot of Cadbury’s chocolate but vomited nowhere!
6. I used to believe I was terrible and relationships and just unlucky with men
Turns out
Being told “how not to get pregnant “isn’t enough education on healthy relationships to make you successful in them.
Unprocessed BIG childhood emotional experiences (think my 1985 life) can have a bigger impact than you realise on your adult relationships.
And actually, my rocky road to eventually meeting my now partner is what inspired me to create my Love Makeover membership.
After manifesting a wonderful partner 3 years ago, I realised that with what I now know, I couldn’t let other women struggle in their love lives for as long as I did when there’s a simple solution. And that’s how my membership Love Makeover Membership was born.
7. Sarah Jessica Parker and Carrie Bradshaw are my style muses!
I play dress up every day. It’s so much fun.
If I’m in the mood for a tutu and joggers on a Tuesday, I’m doing it. Ballgown on Thursday, why not?
I don’t give a crap care what anyone thinks -- I dress in what makes me feel good!!
But not caring has definitely not always been the case. For so many years, I only CARED what others thought of me. Maybe you relate?
8. I’ve behaved in some INSANE ways when it comes to men
First, I no longer hold any shame or beat myself up for ANYTHING I did when I was younger. I was doing my best to cope with life with the tools and awareness I had of myself at the time.
In fact, I’m proud to say I’m at a point in the relationship with myself where I can actually say” I love you” in the mirror and mean it. But it’s been a journey getting here.
Anyhoo,
I once flew to Florida to meet a guy but pretended I was there for another reason other than to meet him
I flew to Ireland for a date (spot the theme!)
I moved in with my ex after only 3 months ( ahem, to move me in, he had to move the girl he'd just moved in a few weeks before we met out. 🚩😬)
9. I was a bodybuilder 2014-2016
I’ve no idea what came over me - well, I do I was hoping if I looked like a fitness model, it would solve all my man drama.
It didn’t!
What it brought me instead was disordered eating and a very troublesome relationship with my body for a few years.
This was me🫣
10. I’ve taken up crocheting and thrifting for vintage as professional hobbies!
If you’re looking for me on a Saturday, you can find me either at home doing crocheting OR knee-deep in thrift shop clothes and accessories, sifting for the best vintage steals.
11. I’m in a long-distance (for now) relationship ) with a native New Yorkian who I met on Tinder at age 42!
It was the pandemic's beginning, and I was meditating like it was my job!
In one of the sessions, I was minding my biz, floating in a beautiful nature-filled vision, when I heard a voice.
I hear voices all the time, so this wasn’t anything new. But this time, it was sharing a very disturbing message. The voice told me to get on Tinder!
So I reactivated my Tinder, and the next day I matched with my now partner of 3 years!
For some context.
This is the only 2nd long-term relationship I’ve been in(I’m 45). And it’s my first EVER healthy one!
Here's us cheese balls earlier in 2023 in Canada ⬇️
12. I love coffee and Donkeys!
Nothing else to say I just do!
There's always a lot to chat about when it comes to dating & relationships!
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The Thrive in Love After 40 Podcast
Ready to ditch toxic love patterns and overcome the obstacles holding you back?
Welcome to "Thrive on Love After 40," the podcast for women seeking to decode relationships & rewrite their love story.
Join me, your host Sarah, as I share my journey & experiences of finding love in my 40s. I'll call out your BS, reveal potential blindspots, and equip you with the skills to date smart and meet your perfect partner.
No more just surviving in love – it's time to thrive.
Tune in to "Thrive on Love After 40" & discover how to unleash your true potential in relationships
The Love Makeover Blog
A blog by a Northern Lass discussing dating, relationships and other fun stuff we need to know about to kick the ass out of life and love after 40.
Together we dive into dating, relationships, personal development, getting older. PLUS I share stories, life hacks, routines and rituals that WILL help you feel good, look good untangle your mind and live YOUR BEST life.
Instagram post: 5 Ways We Can Be Unintentionally Toxic To Our Love Life.
My Interview with Iris Brenubi
Iris is best selling author, Relationship coach, and registered psychotherapist.
Podcast: Breaking The Cycle of Unavailable Partners:The Key to Attracting Healthy Partners Over 40
MY APPROACH
I mix the inner work with practical outer solutions
I add a big pinch of scientifically proved manifestation and ladle soup-song of woo woo!!
Which combined together results in a woman who embodies her powerful feminine, knows her worth and confidently THRIVES while manifesting a f*king fabulous relationship and mid life overflowing with the good sh*t she wants!
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